Thursday, April 23, 2009

Fixing Broken Friendships

In my humble, objectively correct opinion, there are two solid ways to fix a friendship that went bad. Both are geared towards making whatever the problem was just not really matter that much any more.

1. Time.

What were we fighting about? I'm not entirely sure, I think it had something to do with toaster settings. Who cares, we're friends again.

2. Do fun stuff together.

I really hated Bob there for a bit, but then we got a pitcher at the beer garden Sunday afternoon and chucked a Frisbee around. He's alright.

Distant Honorable Mention: Apologies

Apologies are nice and all, but think to the last time a friend broke your heart, and then apologized. Did the apology make it better? Not really, it still hurt. I suppose apologies are often necessary to move on, or they can shorten the time you need to feel better, but they don't in and of themselves fix anything. You still have to grab a cup of coffee and give it a little time.

So next time we have a falling out, we'll go for a bike ride, get some lunch, play some ping pong, sit around and complain about something, catch up on Flight of the Chonchords, hang out at any number of Irish pubs scattered around this fair borough, see who can take the most punches to the arm, fire up the hookah, play some Dr. Mario, and otherwise enjoy each other's company. Give us a week or two of that kind of fun, and how can we not like each other again.

4 comments:

  1. I want to do all of those things in the last paragraph. Let's hang out sometime.

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  2. I totally linked to your blog on my highly trafficked/amazing blog so...reciprocate! :)

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  3. If someone is making you upset it is because they are hitting upon issues that you have. They are a light on the dark shadows of yourself.

    Also... if you gaze in the mirror and want to change the way your hair looks, you don't comb the mirror.

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  4. Katie: OK, just move to New York. Ha!
    Becky: Done.
    Casey: Hm... I sense a new topic or two.

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